Begin 2012 with your own bang, fireworks and personal liberation. MAsturbation will do that for you!
Women of all ages do not receive permission to masturbate. One cannot compare men and women’s masturbation as it is so different.
With men it is a hormonally driven urge, easy satisfaction guaranteed experience. Easy access to genitals enables masturbation to be a matter of fact event. Many women have no real idea how to go about touching themselves in order to msaturbate.
Women ‘s first experience with their genitals too often is through inappropriate touching by an-other. If this is the case her masturbation is immediately associated with an- other and her genitals are frequently never claimed for herself. Due to ignorance of her anatomy, uncertainty on HOW TO do “it” and a disassociation with her genitals/sexuality, masturbation is done secretively, without pride or acknowledged pleasure. Having said all this, women masturbate!
Women who do not masturbate alone to orgasm have less chance of being orgasmic with a partner- and unfortunately women who do this, often fake it with men as these guys never “get it” the way they” get it” .
There are many reasons for women not masturbating so one wants to be sure not to make this a new pathology , a new shame that society imposes on women – as in "you are dysfunctional unless you masturbate" It’s a choice women need to make, but as in all choices women need the information about masturbation and then make their own choices.
Some women have their first masturbatory experience with a partner at his/her behest. It must be her choice. Mutual masturbation can be a fine arousing intimate experience or a great "show and tell" experience for a partner to "get it."
Too often I hear women share how they wait for a partner to fall asleep and then reach down to releive themselves or reach for their trusty vibrator to still her throbbing genitals. Unfortunately her motivation for partner sex decreases and thus pushes up her masturbation activities.
I prefer women to go solo before trying a toy- use her own hands, fingers, water in the shower, Jacuzzi . Once she can do this on her own then sky’s the limit on choice of toys. I prefer women use a separate clitoral toy and a separate vaginal toy so they understand the different sensations form each area.
Recommended clitoral toys: A BULLET BUDDY is small and affordable, a LAYASPOT is a girls best friend. Vaginal toys include Fleur de Lis or Lelo Gigi. And when you know the difference between your clitoral area and your vaginal sensations go for the RABBIT toys- We Vibe, Dream Maker; ROCK CHICK.
