Allow me to be your Fairy Sexmother. Allow me to guide your thoughts. If you are 25, read closely. If older, learn quickly.

I have compiled  a list of secrets that are known to you. As one ages one is better able to claim them as one's truth. Sometimes quite spectacular results ensue on ownership of these truths. Feel free to add  your own secrets to the list - be sure to hand them over to a  younger person as an act of activism.

I have learned  :

*  Choosing the right men/women guarantees the level of sexual satisfaction one has as a woman. Women's sexuality is so dependent on relationship satisfaction that being with the right partner is the most enabling  sexual experience

* Choosing a man/woman who makes you feel safe, honors and respects you will give you the freedom to express and explore your sexuality more successfully and pleasurably. Dark, volatile relationships may not bring you sufficient relaxation to be open sexually.

* Choosing the right man/woman for a life partner is tough, requires a lot of thought and lust, but about the most important decision a person has to make in her life. Having lust is vital , money may be  a greta attractant but lust feels nicer to carry around thna an expensive handbag.

* Having children can change one’s life and thus sexuality forever after. Start using vibrators to fast track sexual fun together or yours alone, so at least you have some sex whilst kids are so demandingly small.

* Use lubricant to fast track the arousal process in women and in men.

* Push your sexual boundaries now so you have no regrets when your hips are less flexible and your vagina and penis less juicy.

* Know your body will change accompanied by changes in your sexual responses. Be flexible with these changes, go with them  rather than  attempting to make the same in-out in-out routine's work.

Move into a "Why not"? mode if you are adult, consensual and practicing safer sex.