I unashamedly love lubricant - using saliva is so well, almost childlike, and I do not intend this as a judgement . I find it quite amusing to hear of someone using saliva to lubricate themselves or a lover- I tell women once they have masturbated a man with lube he will literally be eating out of her hands. Glidy, smooth and it takes the hassle and worry out of the "will I be wet?" and "will I get hard?" Just do it. Apply lube during your own masturbation sessions first as one wants to be self knowledged before trying something with a partner for the first time. Also all the lube I sell is perfume and colour free as well as menthol free which may well ensure no infections for women prone to thrush. Always use a little at first to try it out then integrate it into your sexual loving.
I was thinking about post orgasmic etiquette - that awkwardness that comes after he comes as usually (nd unfortunately) that is when the session is over - a new lover, a new body, smells and tastes that are unfamiliar. I think I need to write an article about this -- please send me your thoughts on this - in fact i will do a poll on this topic this week -- I need some guidance on writing this article. I see people cringe in my therapy room when the classic question is asked" Do you enjoy sex with me? " "Was it good for you" is the same verboten question for a lover to ask post orgasmically. One lies there in the uncontained space wondering "what now"? so this question can never be honestly answered. Rather be guided by your own experience of what has just gone down. And be generous by sharing what you did enjoy/appreciate/welcomed. Without commitment for more. Just acknowledge the moments shared.
Order some books and toys and enjoy the lube and condom from Durex. Have a fab Sunday ..
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