This was the topic on The Dr Eve Show on Heart and Gagasi radio stations tonight. Men called in complaining of women's dissatisfaction with their penis size - too big or too small - seeking techniques to better satisfy their women - and save their own faces of course. I am not a giver of Tips and Techniques. Its pretty crass professional work to imagine there are standard techniques that apply as a rule to all people. However there is one "techique " that is part of my daily mantra...

Masturbation - for women specifically. So when a woman bravely calls in to say she has never had an orgasm , alone or with a partner, I am committed to say "spend time alone playing  with yourself." In her wonderful innocence she asked a simple "how"?

Indeed how do women masturbate.. where do they learn the "technique" of masturbation.  Last week in my Pillowbook Women's Group (e mail This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it for more information) the women shared their masturbation stories. And what emerged- as it always does in a group of women - is surreptitious fumbling somewhere "down there". A caller shared she thinks she has "abnormal" masturbation technique: she lies on her tummy and squeezes her thighs together until she climaxes. That has to come from childhood - the shame of women hiding their "down there" potential pleasures by lying on their stomachs. Of course this is not "abnormal" but it makes it pretty difficult to have partner orgasms as it is a difficult posisiton to get into and takes some extra time.

For me "good " technique is good listening, good time set aside , really caring about your partner's sexual and emotional satisfaction. "Good " technique is knowing some anatomy , like where her clitoris is - and spendign long lazy time there- and that the vagina is not a hole that needs to be filled with many minutes of dry thrusting, but a cavity that has potential , at the right time, with the right kind of definite touching togush forth liquid pleasure.

"Good " technique is no ego, lots of sex toys for what the body cannot possibly do and to add to what the body can do. Talking about sex toys , check out the new toys just arrived int he store- kick ass Nomi Tangs that are flexible, soft and beautifully designed. The new We Vibes arrive when holidays are over.. worth salivating for them:)

Book your initmate space for the DR. EVE MOTHERS DAY EVENT at 15 On Orange. Only 50 mothers . Enormously fabulous Oprah moments promised plus sex toy demo and of course shopping for toys available. Call 021-439-4004 or email This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it

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