Friday night saw over 230 people at the launch of this very important book- we were deep in the belly of the whale at Iziko Museum - we danced, cried, celebrated with pride the coming out of this book, a book that will fill you with understanding, compassion and tolerance of a group of people and their SOFFAS (significant others, family, friends,, allies) of trans people. Buy it- order it from the Book Lounge in Roeland street, Cape Town, they deliver to wherever you are.
As you may know I am a board member of Genderdynamix, the NGO that advocates, lobbies, offers services and support to trans people all over Africa, the only one of its kind in Africa. I have been on the board since its inception, and we are growing as an organisation . The reason for this is that trans issues are becoming more transparent, evident and urgent. I encourage you to visit their web site:www.gdx.org.za and get a real feel of the issues and conversations. My role with trans people is an increasingly clinical one as I consult, assess and take gender variant people through the process of assessment and reassignment as laid out by international standards of care. I am transformed with each person I am privileged to journey with.... read the book so you get a feel of journey so varied and so brave.
My transformation continued into Saturday night when a treasured friend celebrated her 50th birthday and put on her own production. A lover of opera, a patron of Cape Town opera she held her party in the garden of another one of our friends, under Table Mountain with Lions Head peaking at us. Fairy lights, champagne, an exquisite meal and our own private opera show! 3 soloists from Cape Town Opera studio plus an accompanist on piano sung familiar arias to a group of friends who were lost in love and emotion with the gift this friend had given to all of us.
No wonder research shows that women become depressed without women friends - it is vital to our well being. Gather your friends to your bosom, ward off depression by hanging out with them, and never give up a sistah for a lover
If your lover is jealous, resentful of your friends, you really want to see where else he/she hides his /her irrational need to control you - then be careful, be very careful.
This week we bgin the 16 Days Of Activism of No Violence Agaisnt Women. Check on the Tips and Techniques of this site and tick off your warning signs. I urge you to be clear and cautious , be scientific as you use intuition to know if what you are feeling is abuse. So the list is a guide to let you know what you are feeling is not you going crazy and that you really want to be sure someone is abusing you/someone before you make accusations. Be very careful of inflammatory language and allegations - it may lead to pain unimagined.
Have a mindful week of women- of yourself as a woman, for your woman lover, for your girl children. Buy a toy to celebrate being a woman. Mmmm how about a box of Durex melts and a pow wow RO120m Bullet vibe for your clitoris as well as a fabulous dildo- my favourite is the Curve.
I end my weekend by thanking my friend/colleague Director of Genderdynamix who thought of me whilst she was training in Sweden and came back with 3 books for me - which of course I shall share with you: "A guide to clitoral sex"; "pussypedia- what everywoman needs to know about her genitals" and "Dicktionary- what every guy needs to know about his knob."
Have a great week x
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