Being celibate is often times a choice . After years of living alone by age 50 something one might consider whether dating is worth the bother.

Truth is there are benefits to being alone and benefits to being in relationship. Another truth is that it is difficult to be in a relationship and it is difficult to be single. I believe it is about timing. Your own timing. People fall in love when they are ready to fall in love – it’s less about the person and more about it being the right time. You may be at a time when you are reconsidering your sexless singlehood and contemplating another possibility. The element of relationships that I enjoy the most is how it stretches and pulls you to grow as an individual. Consider : when you live alone, you really can believe you are pretty ok in the world. This can be indicated to you via positive feedback from work achievements, colleagues remarks, friends and family loving you. And most importantly by enjoying yourself, seeing your own beauty and self appreciation. So you really think that your life is full enough and you are happy enough.

And so it may well be – there is no bias I hold towards singelhood at all.

But consider what it will feel like to feel special, intimate and safe with one individual who can and should be both your friend and lover. Think of this as an added dimension to your life, a dimension which can bring you self knowledge in ways that singlehood can never do. Imagine having a partner to work out ideas, plans,

dilemmas. Imagine being able to travel and share experiences with someone with whom you feel friendship, comfortableness and still get to have sexual passion with at the end (or beginning/middle) of the day.

People forget how powerful sexuality is in one’s life. (http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/adult-movies/women-s-sexual-satisfaction.html) It is only when you feel the face, skin, muscles, smell of another person, and have the other experience you on a sensual/sexual level, do you realize how much vitality you have missed out on for so many years.

I think one should go into dating with no intention other than self discovery. Place yourself before a man , talk to him, or many “hims”, and rediscover parts of yourself long forgotten. You may even feel stirrings that you have long forgotten.

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