Parties and escorts are great, but any decent looking girl can take a cute guy home from a club with the right preparation and info. I think only a guy can tell you how to optimize your chances of getting the guy you want in this situation.

Outfit
Men are visually stimulated. If your intention is to get the guy you want, you probably want to take your outfit to the next level. Preferably a little past where you are comfortable. Being dressed as sexy as possible will make men want you immediately and make you feel attractive as well. You have to accentuate your assets. This is not a time to worry about what the other women are thinking. It is no secret that men love low cut tops, short skirts, tight pants or jeans, long hair and sexy make-up. Have a pair of pants that give you a cameltoe? Wear them. Men are very shallow, and an attention drawing look is a key element. There are plenty of online stores that sell sexy outfits to wear at clubs. A few examples are:

www.yumdrop.com/Clubwear
www.flirtcatalog.com
www.forplaycatalog.com/store/Clubwear

Eye Contact
Looking and smiling at men will tell them that you are interested. Most men will assume that you are not available and will not approach you until they see a sign that it is okay to do so. This is because thay cannot handle being shot down. If you see a cute guy, do whatever you can to get eye contact, then give him a friendly smile. He will approach you if he is interested.

Flirting
Men love women who flirt. If/when you get into a conversation with someone you like, don't hold back on flirty talk or sexual innuendos. You will never turn a guy off taking the conversation where he is already hoping it will go. Flipping your hair, bending over, licking your lips are all things that guys love.

Touching
There is definitely a double standard between men and women when it comes to touching. When you are interacting with a guy, touching is a great thing. If you are dancing, touch however you want. When you are talking, touching his shoulder or better yet his leg goes a long way. If you want a preview of the goods, touch his package under the table. A guy will never be offended by any type of touch.

Alcohol
Getting drunk and doing things you hadn't planned on doing is bad. But having a few drinks to give you the nerve to do the things you can't do straight is a great thing. You may want to try many of the suggestions above but they are not things you can talk yourself into doing. After a couple of drinks, your whole attitude and bravery will change.


So you’ve been at the club for a couple hours, you’re wearing your sexiest outfit, you’ve basically been giving out lap dances on the floor all night long, there’s not one male body part that you haven’t grabbed, and you still haven’t picked up a guy? Do not worry! 30 minutes before any venue shuts down a horde of guys will descend on it looking for a late night pick up. At this point in the night you basically just need to stand around and wait for your prince charming to come in and sweep you off your feet.

Let me know if you have questions!

David

Great to see how helpful and practicla you are all beign in your contributions- thank you. I love the recommendation - not too much alcohol as this allows more risky behaviour, regret behaviour and less likely to use the condoms you brought along. I know I am the wet blanket of sexual health again. But I think there has been great emotional health sharing too- the good and the bad.

And by the way, how do women feel about sharing their men ???

Share my husband? NEVER! When he first asked me to do it, I assumed it was because he wanted to do the same. But eventually I found that this was not the case. On the other hand, if I asked him to do it, I'm sure he would try it just like I did for him. But we have discussed this whole thing many times, and he really just wants to watch me, and I enjoy doing it.

It's a wonderful life style for couples where the man is more a watcher and love masturbation and the woman love to get more than one. I really had my more intense orgasms with my ex-wife as we were a such type of couple! Unfortunately it didn't worked for us very well, but i still remember her sweetly and i still appreciate and encourage this lifestyle as i think is the future. We need {all of us) men they are passionate and loving and women sexy, passionate and loving.

Hi All.

This is a very nice post, I read through all 10 pages and have sent the link to my wife as well. As a husband I also thought about it and my wife asked me do you think other people think of these things and now we know others do.

I really enjoyed the posts and the different scenarios, but for the women who went thru with it in a responsible way thats good. We been thinking about it for a while now but my wife is comfortable in starting with getting a male stripper first and he can tease her etc. Thing is I noticed few of the members on this post are in the US and there I think people are more open to certain things. Not sure in S.A where I can find a nice mail stripper etc and also places to find guys to try these things, but ofcourse only when the wife is completely ready.

I guess if go ahead with the stripper and see how it goes from there but in SA it seems there are more female strippers but not much for the ladies....so yay for me but not for the wife....

Dr Eve, I think you are a Godsend! You have allowed us to break off the shackles that the conservative prudes of the world would like to imprison us in, and for that I am grateful.

For a couple of years now, I've thought there's something wrong with me for wanting to watch my wife with another man. It seemed unnatural and even perverted, but after reading all the wonderful messages on this site, I now realise that there is nothing wrong with me, I just express my sexuality and my love for my wife differently to how society forces us to.

Lauren and I have been married for 12 years (and dated for 4 years before that) and we're still very much in love. But I know she's not completely satisfied sexually. After this amount of time, I know when she's telling a white lie, and when we talk about our sex life, she says she's 100% happy but I can tell she's not. Over the years, during sex or conversations about sex, I've figured out that she would love to be with a well endowed guy, and I'm fairly average in size. I think she also gets bored with having the same partner.

I don't begrudge her what she feels - I love her enough to want to give her something that will make her happy. So I want to give her the opportunity to be with a guy who is big enough to satisfy her need to be "filled" and also maybe a young guy, because I know this will make her feel young again.

The question is, how do I broach the subject with her without coming across as if I'm using her to satisfy my own perversions. Basically, how do I avoid making her feel like she's an object in a game, and show her that this is something I think she needs and ultimately it will strenghten our love and our bond?

If she admits that this is something she wants, but she says she doesn't want me to watch, should I agree to that? Not that I don't trust her - I trust her 110% - but more from a safety point of view?

Amit