Cancel the Wedding

I am in a relationship of 7 years and the guy has just proposed.I never thought of him as a marrying type and I love him so much.

We are busying planning our wedding and it will be somewhere in December. So suddenly he is being secretive and he does not want me to see or touch his phone . And before this we used to play with his phone listening to music but now its different.

Last night we fought about the sms he received and asked who is that he fastly deleted the sms and say i dont trust him. He has also changed his pin codes on the phone and used to know them.

SHOULD i GET WORRIED OR STOP THE WEDDING OR WHAT

DR. EVE answers:

Always trust your instinct. When a person's behaviour changes you have to take note. You must practice your right -to-know what this new behaviour is all about. Privacy is a conversation people have when they begin a relationship and then of course this conversation needs to be revisited as life changes for both of you.   You are angry as your partner is suddenly withdrawing this privilege of sharing which leaves you feeling vulnerable. You are feeling excluded from his life , you are feeling betrayed.

I don't think stopping the wedding is the immediate answer. You need moreinformation about what he is really up to. Don't make assumptions. Be informed before making big decisions. If your partner is unwilling to co operate with you, then you need to be alerted to revisiting your marriage commitment. If he is unwilling to cooperate about this before you marry I would feel concerned about future cooperations.

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