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I am 25 year old female involved in a relationship with a 35 yr old guy. We love each other and then I became pregnant. He said he is not ready for a child so I must do abortion. I refuse to do so because I need the baby. What should I do because to me it seems like he did not love me at all, all was about sex.
Dr. Eve Answers: We women have to believe that men have hearts, have their own value systems and have a right to their needs being met. And I am not talking about sexual needs. Your man is expressly and honestly telling you that he does not want a child. He is not saying he only wants you for sex. He is not saying he does not love you. He merely is making an honest statement- no baby. In an ideal world a couple should discuss their views on children - before a pregnancy occurs. You should have known he did not want children as much as he should have known that you obviously badly want a child. And of course protection should have been used which would have saved you both this trauma. But as I say .."in an ideal world.." My concern is about your deep need for a child- why do you "need" a child? Is it so he will propose you? Have you considered the responsibilities that come with having children? Are you able to single parent if your boyfriend leaves you? I ask you to consider all your options before making a decision. Do not trivialize this problem into a "he does not love me; its all about the sex he wants". This is too serious an issue to feel girly and sensitive.
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