im 25 years old and i had a relationshihp with a 27 year old man for about 3 years now. during our relationship i ended falling pregnant with his child, everyhting was okay but now things have changed,when i call him he sometimes ignores my calls or he wil say he didnt received the call at all, i send him SMSes but he doesnt reply. i love him and he knows that and he always say to my friends that he loves me but he doensnt give me any sign of that.Please give me advice i dont wanna lose him.
Dr. Eve answers
You have lost him hun. This man has retreated.
To be in relationship one needs active connection, and I mean active as the person needs to Reciprocate, Respond, Reply.
Firstly it is plain rude not to respond to someone‘s calls, text messages. And you are not someone: you are the person with whom he is supposed to be in relationship, plus the mother of his child.
Secondly by not responding he is telling you very clearly that he does not want contact with you.
Telling your friends that he loves you sounds pretty but actually it has no direct benefit to you as his behavior speaks otherwise. You choose. Don’t sit around waiting for more rejection and humiliation. Take the risk of asking for clarity: either he is in the relationship or out. If he is in, you need to give him some guidelines of how you expect to be treated. I think its worth taking the chance ...
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