Hi Dr. Eve
I'm 32 years old. I'm involved with a 38 years boyfriend we have six months in our relationship, he stays at Mpumalanga and I stay at KZN. He doesn't call me ,and if I call he always say call me after some minutes I'm busy , when I send sms he doesn't respond , when he got time he send me some sms expressing how much he loves me , I love him so much but now I doubt whether he still loves me, I always asked him to tell me if he doesn't have my feelings anymore but he always says he love me its just that he is stressed by his work and he don't have time for cell phones. sometimes when I call he ignores my call , he does not work on weekend but if I call him he said call me after some minutes, I don't know whether he is avoiding me ,I still love him HELP HELP !
Dr Eve Answers
This is a new relationship and its long distance - so its very difficult to feel secure. Because you do not know each other nor live near by, you really will feel confused. Clearly your need is for more contact than his need. Don't take it as personal rejection,. Clearly your need to relate and connect frequently may feel invasive for him. However he does need to meet your needs as you do need to respect his. Maybe less frustrating for both of you is if you schedule talk time, phone dates. You don't want to be chasing this man - it does not feel good for you. Put up some boundaries through set phone dates and if he cannot commit to this then you know you have a man who may love you - in words , but is not willing to invest in a relationship. Relationships need time and attention.
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