Dear Dr Eve, I am a 60 year old women and have not had sex for a number of years. I met someone and when we became intimiate, his penis could not penetrate my vagina. Embarassing. This was not because my vagina was dry as I am on HRT but it appeared that my vagina was no longer wide enough to allow the penis to penetrate. Obviously from a lack of sexual intercourse. If I were to purchase a vibrator (my first vibrator) to use to loosen the vagina, which one should I buy?
Dr. Eve Answers:
Ouch! With age and the loss of estrogen, the vagina becomes atrophied. It can be that your HRT is not sufficiently maintianing your vaginal lining. Also the muscles surrounding the vagina and the pelvic floor are unfit and need exercsing. It commonly happens due to lack of use.So a combination of both of these factors have led to this inablity to penetrate.
Begin with a visit to your gynaecologist to revisit your hormone therapy. Perhaps he/she will feel comfortable to add in a local vaginal estrogen replacement in addition to your hormone therapy.This will do wonders for your sexual health and vaginal lining in particular, making the vagina juicy and plumped out again.
In terms of a sex toy I suggest you go small rather than big for now. I recommend Femani Initmate Vibe (http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/vibrators/dilators/femani-intimates-lavender-midi-massage-wand.html). This is a slim wand which vibrates, research shows it is way better for women to have vibrating wands /dildos as the vibration helps the vaginal muscles contract.Once you can mange to insert this midi size then you can move to the maxi size(http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/vibrators/dilators/femani-intimates-pink-maxi-massage-wand.html)
I recommend a clitoral toy - just for fun and to get a feel of your 60 year old clitoral sensations in case you have neglected this aprt of your genitals too:) We Vibe Touch (http://www.dreve.co.za/shop/vibrators/we-vibe-touch-purple.html) is a completle indulgence for your clitoral area- it feels silky smooth and covers the entire vulva area really getting you to feel the full joy of clitoral stimulation.
I welcome other people's experience on this- how did you get your vagina ready for penetration after a long vacaton??
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