Dr Eve,
At the age of 23 I was involved in a car accident. The steering column went into my pelvis damaging my testis. Castration and male hormones were the only way out. Castration was refused by me. It took me 11 years to become funcional again. I had a girlfriend at the time of the accident. She left me to go and find a 'real man'. How shallow and insulting.
I listened to friends talking how great sex was and eventually having children.
At the age of 34 my sexuality started to function again with great joy.
I met a woman and a relationship started. Then conflict started. She became abusive, belittling me, questioning my every move. A sexual relationship was denied. The relationship ended after a year. Reason, I caught her in my bed with another man.
The second relationship was 8 years. Again sex was denied. Excuse 'real people dont do such things'. I resorted to seeing prostitutes and lost my virginity at 42. The relationship fizzled out.
I am now 51 and still date women. I hold a huge resentment and anger towards woman. I understand a sexual relationship depends on a healthy friendship. But I find women unapproachable on sex.
Can you help ?
Dr. Eve answers
Sounds as if therapy is essential for you. It would be good if you could process some of this trauma and get to a place of peace and pleasure with your sexuality. You will keep choosing women who are abusive and withholding towards you as these are the kind of women you are inviting into your space. This is because of your low self esteem- so you allow women to beat up on you as you believe you actually are not worth more. I strongly recommend therapy. Also if you visiting sex workers I urge you to use condoms consistently and correctly every time.
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