I invite you to do an inventory of your sexual lifestyle. The purpose is to learn what sexual activities you are presently engaging in and to create a new lifestyle of pleasures you may want to add to your present repertoire. I urge you to add your ideas and desires to my inventory - after all this is about your life so make it yours.
Write down whether or not each activity takes place and whether you want more or less of this activity. At the same time write down the obstacles that get in the way of you telling your partner what you want as you design your sexual lifestyle.
Dr.Eve's Sexual Lifestyle Inventory
- Fingers inserted inside my vagina
- Fingers inserted inside my vagina whilst my vulva is being licked/stimulated
- Walking around naked in front of my partner
- Lying spread legged in front of my partner
- Seeing my partner naked
- Seeing my partner spread legged
- Having my face caressed
- Caressing my partner's face
- Eye gazing
- Lying on top of my partner without penetration
- Having my partner lie on top of me without penetration
- Penetration with no sex play before hand
- Quickies
- Deep tongue kissing during sexual intercourse
- Deep tongue kissing not associated with other sexual activities
- Breast play during the day - gentle at times and biting and pinching at other times
- Breast play during sexual intercourse
- Nipple clamps on my breasts
- Nipple clamps on my partner's breasts
- Oral sex on me
- Going down on partner
- Masturbation
- Mutual masturbation - we lie next to each other and play with ourselves until we become orgasmic
- Watching my partner masturbate
- My partner watches me masturbate
- He /she enters my vagina from the rear
- Licking around my anus - analingus
- Inserting a toy inside my anus
- Inserting a penis inside my anus
- Anal play whilst my clitoris is stimulated
- Anal play whilst
- my vagina is penetrated
- Anal play on himI'm on top enveloping his penis in my vagina
- Partner is on top penetrating my vagina with his penis
- Partner sucks and licks my breasts as he plays with me
- We lie side by side and he penetrates my vagina
- Partner penetrates my vagina whilst on knees in front of me
- We caress each other with sensual touches
- Partner stimulates my clitoris until I become orgasmic
- Blindfolding each other
- Consensual spanking
- Sharing fantasies while playing
(Wasserman, Marlene Pillowbook. Cape Town: Oshun,2007)
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