Tell me your Abortion Story.

It was late at night when a  WhatsApp message came through on my professional line. The young woman was  spinning out as  2 nights previously, she and her boyfriend had unprotected sex and he used the  pull out method. She wanted to know how effective emergency contraception would be, 72 hours having being past. In her words, and language she used…

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My ageing body wants sex !

I look in the mirror and I see an aged face and a body that is fit and strong.. and aged. Wrinkles, droopiness, thinning skin, hair and nails , stare back at me. I turn away faster than in previous years, I  put on beautiful underwear ,  dress in colours that make me feel alive, spray on perfume and go…

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The Healing Game : Tips on how to recover from Infidelity

I used to wonder why individuals  and couples who came to me in a state of crisis ,  near collapse, after the discovery of infidelity, never sustained their time in therapy. They fastidiously endured the critical initial phases of therapy. They would do  anything to make the pain go away. And therapy is indeed a healthy way of going through…

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Forgiveness of my perpetrator : yes or no ?!

I  observe closely  the hand wringing and   agitated  physical movements as I hear  the contradictorily   strong voiced declarations.  Declarations of hard work to get to this place of acceptance.and peace.   Hard work toward  Forgiveness.  This is followed by  intense gazing at me, short silences, as the person waits for my response. Approval is sought from me. Approval…

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Why do you kiss? Here are 42 reasons

Cast your mind back to your first kiss with a new person. In a consensual situation,  it happens as  emotional intimacy progresses.  That can be within hours, weeks or months, of first connecting with someone.  It is  stereotyped as an universal  expression of  romantic love.  Or lust.  That first  lip to lip contact may have been short or prolonged ,…

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