THE ECONOMICS OF INTIMACY https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Q5BbBOdgpU About once a week, I mask up, grab my purse and sanitizer and head off to the grocery store. I stand in line, physically distant from others, breathing deeply and mindfully, as I listen to my music through my headphones. It is a terribly anxiety-provoking experience for me. I feel as if my health…
Hello there, CLICK HERE TO SEE ME TALKING ABOUT “ASSESSING YOUR SEXUAL ATTITUDES” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SdduL3HN2Hg In this time of radical proximity with your partner, either in person, or via an online platform, you get to see parts of each other that you either chose to ignore or were well hidden from each other. Some of those parts are your sexual parts.…
One tele-therapy session after the other , I notice the tension and dis-ease between 2 people who fill up my screen. In the confines of a screen I get to notice a lot more than when I have the same couple sitting on my therapy couch. I see the fear in their eyes, the tightness in their jaws, and the…
Today I write to you in my capacity as a Family Therapist CLICK HERE TO SEE ME TALKING ABOUT TIPS TO ENSURE THE MENTAL HEALTH OF YOUR CHILDREN https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGZj6ygt9m0 A short history: Back in the day, I did a Masters in Clinical Social Work, and specialized as a Family Therapist. Whilst working with the whole family, I soon realized that…
QUALITY IN QUARANTINE – HOW TO FALL IN LOVE This is not a honeymoon period. Nor is it a family holiday. It’s a drudge, a nervous, horrid exhausting time of radical uncertainty. For children and adults alike. And for couples, people dating or people longing for an intimate connection. So rather than more doom and gloom from me, I want…
“Wow” , you thought, “lockdown with my beloved for 4 weeks” and the sex part of your brain lit up. Suddenly you imagined hours and hours of sex . Sneaky sex, lazy Sunday morning sex midday on a Wednesday , an opportunity to explore fantasies together, and even experiment sexually, both online and offline. You may have even imagined…
At the root of trauma is unpredictability. The inability to be in the flow of your life, not being able to know what next to expect, triggers immense anxiety and distress. COVID-19 has triggered you into a global trauma as well as triggered your own personal historical/past traumas. Managing your trauma is all that is required of you right now.…
I come with good news to you today, news that some of you may have waited for your life: MASTURBATE! Yes, that’s the news. Masturbation is the fashion of the day, the trend activity that you can and should be doing right now. Perhaps for the first time in your life, you are being given permission to engage in a…
Don’t touch each other! Stand a meter and a half apart! The COVID-19 pandemic raises a lot of questions around safe sex in a time of social distancing and constant handwashing. And it’s challenging to have sex with someone in a mask or a hazmat suit. So, as The New York Times says, ‘These are very unsexy times.’ What about couples who…
Today I bring your awareness to yet another incredible anxiety that Covid-19 brings to too many women – and children. And that is “Intimate Terrorism”, also known as “domestic violence” and “gender-based violence”. I share this information with you… you who may have been enduring intimate terrorism before lockdown and you, who may suddenly have your regular conflicts escalate into…