“Dear Dr Eve , My daughter is 16 years old and declares that she is non-binary and gender fluid. She wants us to use the pronoun “they” when addressing her. We want to support her – or do I say “they”? But we are unsure how to do this. Your guidance is needed. Kali” DR […]
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Advice, Foreplay, Intimacy, Love, Marriage, Mindfulness, PAINFUL SEX, Sexual Health, Trauma, Womens Health
Dear Dr.Eve – My partner refuses to use lube
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Jun
Jun
“Dear Dr. Eve My partner refuses to use lube. He says that if I need lube it means that I am not aroused by him. It means that he is not a good lover. He says that no woman who is with him needs lube as he will do the work and get her sufficiently […]
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Jun
Jun
“Dear Dr. Eve,I am a confused 36-year-old (heterosexual) man so please help me out.On dates, women respond to me, they appear to be enjoying mycompany and are, as flirty with me as I am with them. If we make out,they never say no when I stop outside my place rather than taking them home. Once […]
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May
May
“Dear Dr. Eve, I have no sexual desire at all. I am 36 years old and should be having the sexiest time of my life. I am married, and objectively still find my husband attractive. In the beginning, I used to want sex with him and in fact, I’ve always enjoyed sex with other people. […]
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May
May
“Dear Dr. Eve I’ve always experienced sexual pain. I am now 41 years old and reallylong for a healthy sexual life with my husband. He is so patient with me We can seldom have penetration as it is just too painful for me.I’m on quite a lot of medication as I have a few problems […]
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May
May
“Dear Dr. EveMother’s Day was so hard for me. I was adopted and I was raised in what could be considered a good home, as I had food and clothing and went to a good school. However, I always longed for my own mother. My adoptive mother was cold and my adoptive father not really […]
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Apr
Apr
“Dear Dr. Eve,As a very conscious parent, I need guidance on how to talk to my 6-year-old child about safety. By that, I mean body safety. I was sexually abused as a child and I really want to prevent this from happening to her. I find thisconversation very difficult to have with her. Where should […]
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Apr
Apr
“Dear Dr. Eve,Since Lufuno Mavhunga was bullied at school and then killed herself, Ifear that my child might also be bullied. I don’t know if this is just howteenagers act or if she is really being bullied. How do I approach herabout it as we don’t have such a good relationship?Whenever I ask her how […]
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Apr
Apr
“Dear Dr. Eve I am so desperate: I am thinking of having an affair because I feel soneglected by my husband. I am opposed to cheating so it’s weird for meto even think like this. But it shows how desperate I am.I’ll give you some examples of how he is to me: he never complimentsme, […]
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Apr
Apr
“Dear Dr. Eve,My husband is a policeman and has been with the SAPS for over 10 yearsnow.I have always respected his work and tried to be very supportive of him.I know how dedicated he is and I am proud of him. I support him bybearing the brunt of housework and parenting as he needs to […]
