I am at the airport in Barcelona, reflecting on my week of attendance and presentation at the Non Monogamous and Contemporary Intimacies (NMCI) conference. This is the third NMCI conference so many of us are familiar with each other. As with most conferences, the add on value happens outside of the conference rooms: […]
Category Archives: Intimacy
Advice, Intimacy, Lifestyle, Love, Relationships, Sexual Health, Uncategorized, Womens Health
Zoo Sex: criminal, paraphilia, or moral disgust ?
30
Oct
Oct
“I love my sheep.. I mean, I really love my sheep. I take care of them , herd them in nightly and sleep with them .” “Sleep with them ?” I ask. .”Yes , have sex with some of them, the ones that I find sexually attractive. There is nothing wrong with this . It […]
Advice, Intimacy, Lifestyle, Love, Marriage, Menopause, PAINFUL SEX, Relationships, Sexual Health, Sexual Transmitted Diseases, Uncategorized, Womens Health
Breasts and sexuality after cancer: it matters
16
Oct
Oct
There is nothing “Pink” nor “Feminine” about breast cancer. In fact, just the opposite. So let’s not pretend otherwise. It’s an insult to women. Yes, “women”, not “warriors” nor “fighters”. It denies them a much needed safe space to talk about their breasts, nipples, vaginas and sexuality. Women are be told to “fight back” as if […]
Abuse, Advice, Cheating, Harassment, Intimacy, Lifestyle, Love, Relationships, Sexual Health, Uncategorized, Womens Health
The interpersonal lives of sex workers: dating , motherhood and romance.
02
Oct
Oct
This blog is not about what you do know about sex workers. Rather it is what you may not know about sex workers. It is about their interpersonal lives. Here is what we do know about South African sex workers (courtesy of Sonke Gender Justice/Zia Wasserman ) * In South Africa sex work is illegal. * […]
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To shave or not to shave: Pubic Hair Removal under the microscope
24
Sep
Sep
In Eve Ensler’s play “The Vagina Monologues “ , a woman tells a story of her pubic hair. She never liked trimming or shaving her hair. She liked it natural. Her husband liked her to shave, to be completely clean shaven, , to remove all her pubic hair. She disliked it as she said […]
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Has your partner done anything during sex that has made you feel scared ?
17
Sep
Sep
“ Euphoria” has to be the one of the most memorable series that I have ever seen. Difficult and uncomfortable to sit through , visually gorgeous , it shows the lives of a group of High School teens living their lives. And their lives are any parents worst nightmare of drug addiction , web cam […]
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What do you do post coital?
10
Sep
Sep
Place yourself into this scenario. The penetration has happened. He has had an orgasm, She may be one of the 15% of women who reliably orgasm through only vaginal penetration . Or more likely she is one of the 65% of women who orgasm , primarily through clitoral stimulation . What happens now? What do […]
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Cut or Uncut? #Penistalk
03
Sep
Sep
The penis matters. Ask any man. In a heartbeat he will be able to describe to you, in minute detail, every mark, fold of skin, bend and texture on his penis. After all he spends a lot of time fondling it as he relaxes, masturbates , places it in his underwear , pees and […]
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THE BLESSER.
29
Aug
Aug
When I search #blessed on Instagram, , there are 2 categories of women who pop up. One is of women feeling #blessed by having God in their lives and the other is a group of many thousands of women who feel #blessed by a #blesser. A Blesser is a popular name for “sugar daddy”, the […]
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Limerence : a painful harmful love
21
Aug
Aug
You’re at a workshop. You make eye contact with a person . It feels intense . A connection has been made . You chat. You feel there is a mutual understanding of specialness. You feel you have fallen in love, but really in love, not just a crush. Not a sexual lust. A […]