I am in lock down with my cheating partner

A week into lock down and you notice that your usually shopping averse husband, is jumping at the opportunity to buy essentials at the grocery store. You also become aware that these shopping trips are pretty lengthy. Whilst thanking him for his enthusiasm and helpfulness, you wonder is it just corona virus craziness that has caused this change in his…

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Pornography consumption : how much does it influence your sexual expectations and behaviour?

At the outset I state that this is not a blog about the harm/benefits of pornography consumption . Rather this is a matter of fact invitation for you to consider whether or not your porn consumption influences your real life sexual activity, either alone or with a  partner/s.  And if so, in what way does it do this? I also…

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Non Binary #101

“Do you, personally, identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender?” This is a research question asked of young people in multiple cultures and countries,  And commonly the outcome remains the same, as reported in the book  “Life isn’t binary: on being both, beyond and in-bewteen ” , by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi Nearly half of young people see themselves…

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Why and How Females Masturbate

Google “how to masturbate” and you will be confronted  with  many guides on “Dating  your down under” , or Touch Yourself. All aimed  at women.  Interspersed are a few guides for men /people with a penis. It implies a silent understanding that men know how to masturbate and do it as part of their male privilege. Im not undermining the…

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Cyber Infidelity : a dishonest form of relationship

It is 11.30pm. He stumbles downstairs to see where his wife is. She is on the couch , immersed in her mobile device. Smiling , giggling.  As she sees him , she quickly , puts her mobile face down . GOTCHA! What follows is not pretty. He feels his gut constrict and he is not sure if he wants to…

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POSTING SEXUAL IMAGES (PSI) AND SEXTING : MENTALLY HEALTHY ? ?

Have you ever wondered if posting sexual images or sexting makes you deviant, perverted , or  a little crazy? Or do you brazenly post without giving it a second thought . Perhaps you do stop to wonder if this is legal (ask Emma Sadlier please )  pornographic , within the bounds of monogamy. Or maybe  you accept this as normative…

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Are you a sexually healthy person ?

  I cringe as I write the words “sexually healthy “. There is so much pressure to be sexually “normal” , that to add on the emotional and physical  burden of being sexually “healthy ”  might feel  like adding coal to the fire. It sounds prescriptive and I don’t like anything prescriptive when it comes to sexuality. I imagine you…

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The best of Dr Eve and Eusebius McKaiser , Radio 702: 2019

  Its 11am Friday morning. The jingle plays “Talking Sex” . I am alert and excited to begin the conversation . During the week my host, Eusebius McKaiser and I have mindfully discussed the topic and  thrown around ideas. We aim to educate, provoke and provide a safe and professional space for listeners. However we can never predict listeners’ response…

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An examination of Friendship, Love and Loneliness

I dedicate this to anyone who has recently fallen in love, has been in love,  or wants to be in love. After all in Western society love is the purest most sublime experience. We situate love before values such as justice, solidarity ,human  rights, kindness and respect, says Mari Luz Esteban, a lecturer in Social Anthropology at the University of…

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My first sexual intercourse experience

Think back to your first sexual intercourse experience. Actually don’t think.. notice the sensations that come up in your body right now: warm glow all over, sudden pelvic  contraction, heart pounding , throat constricting, head throbbing plus plus . Merely checking into your body will be enough to tell you whether or not that first intercourse experience was positive and…

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