Welcome to a week of SEXUAL PLEASURE.

Friday 4th September is WORLD SEXUAL HEALTH DAY.  In 2010, the World Association for Sexual Health (WAS) called all their organizations to celebrate, on each September 4th, the World Sexual Health Day (WSHD) in an effort to promote greater social awareness on sexual health across the globe.

This year the theme we at WAS chose, is PLEASURE 

Consider how Pleasure – or lack thereof – touches the many different parts of your life.  It touches your life as an individual, a partner, parent, and lover.  It dictates your mood and determines your self-esteem and wellbeing.  Your experience thereof is initially determined by your upbringing and religion/culture.  And thereafter, as you begin to experience the world alone, your personal exploration of pleasure has the possibility of revealing itself to you.

I am the harbinger of good news:  sexual pleasure is YOUR RIGHT.  The trick is individualizing your own sexual pleasure, based on your age, body, health, mobility, ability.  Your sexual pleasure is formed by your unique needs, dreams, fantasies. And of course, mightily determined by the relationship/s in which you live.  In 2019, at the World Association of Sexual Health Congress in Mexico City, the Declaration of Sexual Pleasure, was launched.  It is a declaration of your human right to have sexual pleasure.

Mexico City World Congress of Sexual Health

Mexico City, October 15, 2019

The participants of the 24th World Congress of the World Association for Sexual Health:

Sexual pleasure is the physical and/or psychological satisfaction and enjoyment derived from shared or solitary erotic experiences, including thoughts, fantasies, dreams, emotions, and feelings.

Self-determination, consent, safety, privacy, confidence, and the ability to communicate and negotiate sexual relations are key enabling factors for pleasure to contribute to sexual health and well-being. Sexual pleasure should be exercised within the context of sexual rights, particularly the rights to equality and non-discrimination, autonomy and bodily integrity, the right to the highest attainable standard of health, and freedom of expression. The experiences of human sexual pleasure are diverse and sexual rights ensure that pleasure is a positive experience for all concerned and not obtained by violating other people’s human rights and well-being.

Join me in thinking about your own Pleasure.

Perhaps you feel embarrassed to admit longing for sexual pleasure at this time of COVID-19 specifically.  And maybe you always did feel slightly shy or awkward talking about this.  Sexual Pleasure is differentiated from Sexual Satisfaction. “Satisfaction” is driven by orgasms. “Pleasure” is a very personal subjective experience.

Here are some ideas to help you create your own Personal Pleasure Plan.  I hope you can safely share this with a partner/s.



  • My pleasure is driven by the connection I feel with a partner
  • Feeling confident in my own body gives me pleasure
  • Knowing I am sexually functional enhances my presence and thus pleasure
  • Feeling safe and secure with a partner heightens my pleasure
  • Diverse sexual experiences give me pleasure
  • Knowing I have access to sexual partner/s gives me pleasure
  • Free from STI’s enhances my sexual pleasure
  • Planning my own pregnancy gives me sexual pleasure
  • Sexual fidelity (no cheating) increases my sexual pleasure
  • Porn gives me sexual pleasure
  • BDSM is my go-to pleasure place
  • Infidelity thrill is my pleasure
  • Add on your own ….. ++++

Feel free to reach out to me via WhatsApp.  Anonymity is guaranteed.  Let me know where your anxieties, fears, and worries sit with you.  Tell me what is soothing for you.  And what you need in this time of radical uncertainty.


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Take care

Marlene #stayhome