One tele-therapy session after the other , I notice the tension and dis-ease between 2 people who fill up my screen. In the confines of a screen I get to notice a lot more than when I have the same couple sitting on my therapy couch. I see the fear in their eyes, the tightness in their jaws, and the…
A week into lock down and you notice that your usually shopping averse husband, is jumping at the opportunity to buy essentials at the grocery store. You also become aware that these shopping trips are pretty lengthy. Whilst thanking him for his enthusiasm and helpfulness, you wonder is it just corona virus craziness that has caused this change in his…
Spending 3 weeks in lockdown with a known partner either fills the heart with forgotten butterflies or dread. It could also mean moving in with a new person as partners who do not live together cannot see each other in person . You choose this over 3 weeks of separation . Perhaps your long distance lover decides to…
Place yourself into this scenario. The penetration has happened. He has had an orgasm, She may be one of the 15% of women who reliably orgasm through only vaginal penetration . Or more likely she is one of the 65% of women who orgasm , primarily through clitoral stimulation . What happens now? What do you do now? What does…
As South Africans, we are all AIDS fatigued . It’s been around for so long that without blushing in shame, we can ‘fess up that we don’t enjoy condoms, and that we don’t really use them reliably and consistently. And now that bio medical technology is here, why bother? A brief history of HIV/AIDS in South Africa. In 1982 the…
Many people erroneously think taking a PDE5I, like Viagra, Levitra, Cialis will do the trick – restore the erection and all will be well. In sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, we vow to love a partner eternally. In reality this is a big ask. How many of us can honestly say what this really means? That…