If You’re Distressed About Your Sexual Desire, This Could Be Why

It’s appropriate and healthy to reconsider the role of sexual desire in your own life, value system and in relation to your partnerships.   On a scale of 1 to 5, with 1 being the lowest and 5 the highest, rate how important your sexual desire is to you. Give a reason for this rating. No one is looking over…

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Radical Honesty — Is It Necessary To Talk About ‘Everything’?

There is a complicit, unspoken agreement between a couple not to talk about certain subjects. Like sexuality. “I’m not a cheater,” says the man on my couch. “I’m a responsible husband. I have a job, I parent, I don’t abuse my wife. We even have sex together. So I fulfil the basic requirements of marriage. Why do I have to…

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Some Healing Advice For Those Whose Childhood Trauma Shattered Their Sexuality And Intimacy

In 1998 the CDC uncovered a link between childhood trauma and chronic diseases people develop as adults as well as social and emotional problems. The man on my therapy couch tells me he “explodes” with his partner. He shamefully confesses verbally abusing her and cries as he tries to understand why he hurts the person most dear to him. The…

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Does Cyber-Infidelity Shield Your Polyamorous Need — Yes Or No?

Were I to ask you whether or not you’re cheating online as you sext, chat, flirt with a person who is not your partner, you’d probably say no. Were I to ask you whether or not you believe in cheating, you would answer “no”? I’m betting that even Cyril Ramaphosa would say he believes in the principle of fidelity and marital honesty.…

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