What do you do post coital? 

Place yourself into this scenario. The penetration has happened. He has had an orgasm, She may be one of the 15% of women who reliably orgasm through only vaginal penetration . Or more likely she is  one of the 65% of women who orgasm , primarily  through  clitoral stimulation . What happens now? What do you do now? What does…

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Cut or Uncut? #Penistalk

  The penis matters. Ask any man. In a heartbeat he will be able to  describe to you, in minute detail, every mark, fold of skin, bend and texture on his penis. After all he spends a lot of time fondling it as he relaxes,  masturbates , places  it in his underwear , pees  and penetrates a person with it.…

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Tell me your Abortion Story.

It was late at night when a  WhatsApp message came through on my professional line. The young woman was  spinning out as  2 nights previously, she and her boyfriend had unprotected sex and he used the  pull out method. She wanted to know how effective emergency contraception would be, 72 hours having being past. In her words, and language she used…

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A necessary new vision of HIV/AIDS in Men who have Sex with Men

As South Africans, we are all AIDS fatigued . It’s been around for so long that without blushing in  shame, we can ‘fess up  that we don’t enjoy condoms,  and that we don’t really use them reliably and consistently. And now that bio medical technology is here, why bother? A brief history of HIV/AIDS in South Africa. In 1982 the…

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