A week into lock down and you notice that your usually shopping averse husband, is jumping at the opportunity to buy essentials at the grocery store. You also become aware that these shopping trips are pretty lengthy. Whilst thanking him for his enthusiasm and helpfulness, you wonder is it just corona virus craziness that has caused this change in his…
Spending 3 weeks in lockdown with a known partner either fills the heart with forgotten butterflies or dread. It could also mean moving in with a new person as partners who do not live together cannot see each other in person . You choose this over 3 weeks of separation . Perhaps your long distance lover decides to…
#StayTheFuckHome A Movement to Stop the COVID-19 Pandemic Our governments are only slowly implementing measures to control the spread of SARS-CoV-2 and containing the COVID-19 pandemic. Slow reactions, public appeasement policies, and their urge to stabilize the economy have kept them from taking the measures needed to protect millions from this disease. However, it is not only the government’s burden…
At the outset I state that this is not a blog about the harm/benefits of pornography consumption . Rather this is a matter of fact invitation for you to consider whether or not your porn consumption influences your real life sexual activity, either alone or with a partner/s. And if so, in what way does it do this? I also…
Recently I worked with a group of men for a weekend. The purpose fo the group was “How to thrive in a healthy intimate relationship.” During an accumulation of many of our discussions , it came to me that these men totally associate sexuality with penetration. I should know this by now having worked with men for 26 years. Something…
“Do you, personally, identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender?” This is a research question asked of young people in multiple cultures and countries, And commonly the outcome remains the same, as reported in the book “Life isn’t binary: on being both, beyond and in-bewteen ” , by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi Nearly half of young people see themselves…
Google “how to masturbate” and you will be confronted with many guides on “Dating your down under” , or Touch Yourself. All aimed at women. Interspersed are a few guides for men /people with a penis. It implies a silent understanding that men know how to masturbate and do it as part of their male privilege. Im not undermining the…
It is 11.30pm. He stumbles downstairs to see where his wife is. She is on the couch , immersed in her mobile device. Smiling , giggling. As she sees him , she quickly , puts her mobile face down . GOTCHA! What follows is not pretty. He feels his gut constrict and he is not sure if he wants to…
Has there ever been a time in your life when you have got so angry that you ended up hurting someone you care about ? With words, not actions, just words. Words that left you looking around and wondering out of whose mouth did those words just come? Once you have returned to emotional regulation, you can be present…
Have you ever wondered if posting sexual images or sexting makes you deviant, perverted , or a little crazy? Or do you brazenly post without giving it a second thought . Perhaps you do stop to wonder if this is legal (ask Emma Sadlier please ) pornographic , within the bounds of monogamy. Or maybe you accept this as normative…