Sexual Problems and Sexual Abuse

CLICK HERE TO SEE ME TALK ABOUT “SEXUAL PROBLEMS AND SEXUAL ABUSE” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aDKQzvxtKNc As you know, I work with the traumas of intimacy. After many years, and now proven with robust scientific evidence, I know that sexual problems are problems of intimacy. Intimacy is feeling safe and secure with a person. Generally, it is a big ask to feel safe…

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INTIMACY CARE

Hello there, CLICK HERE TO WATCH ME TALK ABOUT “INTIMACY CARE” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XU4ptEl6tc8 As you begin your new week, I invite you to set your intentions for yourself in your intimate relationships.  Intimate relationships include any form of relationship that is significant to you.  These include parent/child; siblings; friends; lovers; significant partner/s; colleagues. Let’s begin: I invite you to say or…

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Building your love maps

CLICK HERE TO SEE ME TALK ABOUT “BUILDING YOUR LOVE MAPS” https://youtu.be/IULOGqqd4So I have noticed that you enjoy the quizzes I send to you.  They are a powerful instrument that can be used to initiate difficult conversations with a partner.  The purpose of relationship and sexuality quizzes is to know each other better, in a deeper more intimate manner.  …

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“GOOD-ENOUGH PARENTS”

CLICK HERE TO SEE ME TALKING ABOUT “GOOD ENOUGH PARENTS” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkGwG5cZxZM I used to consider myself a good parent to my 3 now-adult children. I believed that “good parenting” meant that you pretty much sacrificed yourself for your kids, that you were available at every peep, and in return, you could expect perfectionism. Luckily in the course of my studies,…

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Relationship Check-in

Click here to see me talk about how to do a “relationship check-in” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zARdcQyLx0A It’s time!  Time to take a breath and invite your partner to do a “Relationship Check-In”.  As a single person, it is time for you to check in re your current relationship values. 3 unique relationship months have passed, unique in that you have spent this…

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Understanding addictions in Covid-19

  Like me , I am sure you have an opinion about the reinstatement of alcohol in Level 3. I celebrate the return of some of our freedom, mostly the freedom to trade and boost the economy. Like most freedoms, this comes with a cost. And the cost of alcohol is high on the health and safety of people. Covid-19…

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Children’s Sexual Pleasure: a letter to parents

  Hello Parents,  By now you have got HomeSchooling#101 under your belt. I have heard about the sense of inadequacy you feel around your own  math knowledge , geography and Xhosa. Ive learned that as a parent you have  stretched yourself into new technologies to enable your child to learn online. And you’re exhausted . Sorry for you, but I…

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