Children’s Sexual Pleasure: a letter to parents

  Hello Parents,  By now you have got HomeSchooling#101 under your belt. I have heard about the sense of inadequacy you feel around your own  math knowledge , geography and Xhosa. Ive learned that as a parent you have  stretched yourself into new technologies to enable your child to learn online. And you’re exhausted . Sorry for you, but I…

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Sexual Pleasure – this is your human right

  My thoughts are primed on “Pleasure”. There are a number of reasons for this.  The top of head reason is that together with a few of my international colleagues, I am a co-author on an academic paper on “Pleasure and Sexual Health”.  Our focus is on examining how much Pleasure features in your health care.  For example, does your…

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Pornography consumption : how much does it influence your sexual expectations and behaviour?

At the outset I state that this is not a blog about the harm/benefits of pornography consumption . Rather this is a matter of fact invitation for you to consider whether or not your porn consumption influences your real life sexual activity, either alone or with a  partner/s.  And if so, in what way does it do this? I also…

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Are you a sexually healthy person ?

  I cringe as I write the words “sexually healthy “. There is so much pressure to be sexually “normal” , that to add on the emotional and physical  burden of being sexually “healthy ”  might feel  like adding coal to the fire. It sounds prescriptive and I don’t like anything prescriptive when it comes to sexuality. I imagine you…

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The best of Dr Eve and Eusebius McKaiser , Radio 702: 2019

  Its 11am Friday morning. The jingle plays “Talking Sex” . I am alert and excited to begin the conversation . During the week my host, Eusebius McKaiser and I have mindfully discussed the topic and  thrown around ideas. We aim to educate, provoke and provide a safe and professional space for listeners. However we can never predict listeners’ response…

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My first sexual intercourse experience

Think back to your first sexual intercourse experience. Actually don’t think.. notice the sensations that come up in your body right now: warm glow all over, sudden pelvic  contraction, heart pounding , throat constricting, head throbbing plus plus . Merely checking into your body will be enough to tell you whether or not that first intercourse experience was positive and…

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Breasts and sexuality after cancer: it matters

There is nothing “Pink” nor “Feminine” about breast cancer. In fact, just the opposite.  So let’s not pretend otherwise. It’s an insult to women. Yes, “women”, not “warriors” nor “fighters”.   It denies them a much needed safe space to talk about their breasts, nipples, vaginas and sexuality. Women are be told to “fight back” as if they have any control over…

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To shave or not to shave: Pubic Hair Removal under the microscope

  In Eve Ensler’s play “The  Vagina Monologues “ , a woman tells a story of her pubic hair. She never liked trimming or shaving her hair. She liked it natural. Her husband liked her to shave, to be completely  clean shaven, , to remove all her pubic hair.  She disliked it as she said it made her feel like…

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Has your partner done anything during sex that has made you feel scared ?

“ Euphoria” has to be the one of the most memorable series that I have ever seen. Difficult and uncomfortable to sit through , visually gorgeous , it shows the lives of a group of  High School teens living their lives. And their lives are any parents worst nightmare of drug addiction , web cam sex work, abusive relationships and…

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Cut or Uncut? #Penistalk

  The penis matters. Ask any man. In a heartbeat he will be able to  describe to you, in minute detail, every mark, fold of skin, bend and texture on his penis. After all he spends a lot of time fondling it as he relaxes,  masturbates , places  it in his underwear , pees  and penetrates a person with it.…

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