My thoughts are primed on “Pleasure”. There are a number of reasons for this. The top of head reason is that together with a few of my international colleagues, I am a co-author on an academic paper on “Pleasure and Sexual Health”. Our focus is on examining how much Pleasure features in your health care. For example, does your…
The kids are finally asleep, you’re feeling close and connected with him and want to let him know that you’re in the mood for some love making. In a flash the memory of pain gets you to catch your breathe. And you don’t. You don’t let him know that you desire sex with him. You refrain from turning down the…
“Wow” , you thought, “lockdown with my beloved for 4 weeks” and the sex part of your brain lit up. Suddenly you imagined hours and hours of sex . Sneaky sex, lazy Sunday morning sex midday on a Wednesday , an opportunity to explore fantasies together, and even experiment sexually, both online and offline. You may have even imagined…
Google “how to masturbate” and you will be confronted with many guides on “Dating your down under” , or Touch Yourself. All aimed at women. Interspersed are a few guides for men /people with a penis. It implies a silent understanding that men know how to masturbate and do it as part of their male privilege. Im not undermining the…
Has there ever been a time in your life when you have got so angry that you ended up hurting someone you care about ? With words, not actions, just words. Words that left you looking around and wondering out of whose mouth did those words just come? Once you have returned to emotional regulation, you can be present…
Have you ever wondered if posting sexual images or sexting makes you deviant, perverted , or a little crazy? Or do you brazenly post without giving it a second thought . Perhaps you do stop to wonder if this is legal (ask Emma Sadlier please ) pornographic , within the bounds of monogamy. Or maybe you accept this as normative…
Its 11am Friday morning. The jingle plays “Talking Sex” . I am alert and excited to begin the conversation . During the week my host, Eusebius McKaiser and I have mindfully discussed the topic and thrown around ideas. We aim to educate, provoke and provide a safe and professional space for listeners. However we can never predict listeners’ response…
I dedicate this to anyone who has recently fallen in love, has been in love, or wants to be in love. After all in Western society love is the purest most sublime experience. We situate love before values such as justice, solidarity ,human rights, kindness and respect, says Mari Luz Esteban, a lecturer in Social Anthropology at the University of…
Think back to your first sexual intercourse experience. Actually don’t think.. notice the sensations that come up in your body right now: warm glow all over, sudden pelvic contraction, heart pounding , throat constricting, head throbbing plus plus . Merely checking into your body will be enough to tell you whether or not that first intercourse experience was positive and…
“I love my sheep.. I mean, I really love my sheep. I take care of them , herd them in nightly and sleep with them .” “Sleep with them ?” I ask. .”Yes , have sex with some of them, the ones that I find sexually attractive. There is nothing wrong with this . It is my sexual orientation .…