Google “how to masturbate” and you will be confronted with many guides on “Dating your down under” , or Touch Yourself. All aimed at women. Interspersed are a few guides for men /people with a penis. It implies a silent understanding that men know how to masturbate and do it as part of their male privilege. Im not undermining the…
Has there ever been a time in your life when you have got so angry that you ended up hurting someone you care about ? With words, not actions, just words. Words that left you looking around and wondering out of whose mouth did those words just come? Once you have returned to emotional regulation, you can be present…
Have you ever wondered if posting sexual images or sexting makes you deviant, perverted , or a little crazy? Or do you brazenly post without giving it a second thought . Perhaps you do stop to wonder if this is legal (ask Emma Sadlier please ) pornographic , within the bounds of monogamy. Or maybe you accept this as normative…
Its 11am Friday morning. The jingle plays “Talking Sex” . I am alert and excited to begin the conversation . During the week my host, Eusebius McKaiser and I have mindfully discussed the topic and thrown around ideas. We aim to educate, provoke and provide a safe and professional space for listeners. However we can never predict listeners’ response…
I dedicate this to anyone who has recently fallen in love, has been in love, or wants to be in love. After all in Western society love is the purest most sublime experience. We situate love before values such as justice, solidarity ,human rights, kindness and respect, says Mari Luz Esteban, a lecturer in Social Anthropology at the University of…
Think back to your first sexual intercourse experience. Actually don’t think.. notice the sensations that come up in your body right now: warm glow all over, sudden pelvic contraction, heart pounding , throat constricting, head throbbing plus plus . Merely checking into your body will be enough to tell you whether or not that first intercourse experience was positive and…
“I love my sheep.. I mean, I really love my sheep. I take care of them , herd them in nightly and sleep with them .” “Sleep with them ?” I ask. .”Yes , have sex with some of them, the ones that I find sexually attractive. There is nothing wrong with this . It is my sexual orientation .…
There is nothing “Pink” nor “Feminine” about breast cancer. In fact, just the opposite. So let’s not pretend otherwise. It’s an insult to women. Yes, “women”, not “warriors” nor “fighters”. It denies them a much needed safe space to talk about their breasts, nipples, vaginas and sexuality. Women are be told to “fight back” as if they have any control over…
This blog is not about what you do know about sex workers. Rather it is what you may not know about sex workers. It is about their interpersonal lives. Here is what we do know about South African sex workers (courtesy of Sonke Gender Justice/Zia Wasserman ) * In South Africa sex work is illegal. * The simple version of the…
In Eve Ensler’s play “The Vagina Monologues “ , a woman tells a story of her pubic hair. She never liked trimming or shaving her hair. She liked it natural. Her husband liked her to shave, to be completely clean shaven, , to remove all her pubic hair. She disliked it as she said it made her feel like…