Cast your mind back to your first kiss with a new person. In a consensual situation, it happens as emotional intimacy progresses. That can be within hours, weeks or months, of first connecting with someone. It is stereotyped as an universal expression of romantic love. Or lust. That first lip to lip contact may have been short or prolonged ,…
In August 2015 a momentous event occurred in the world of sexuality and sexual health . The FDA approved the first ever drug to treat a sexual dysfunction in pre menopausal women, namely , Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. It is defined as ” a persistent lack of sexual desire in women that causes personal distress.” The Society for Women’s Health Research estimates…
Im trying to remember the first time I became aware of having Bad Sex. Was it the time I found myself lying underneath a man who was thrusting and thrusting .. and thrusting.. in silence as he was so focused on his own male pleasure and ego that his need to delay ejaculation overtook any consideration for the person he…
Confession : I speak from a place of complete ignorance. I have never had marijuana induced sex. I have tried. Believe me , I have tried. Back in the day , like pre September 2018 when marijuana became legalised in South Africa, I attempted to smoke weed pre sex. But alas, since I have chosen to completely avoid smoking nicotine…
It’s one of the great ironies of my world: vibrators are proven to be the most effective means for women to achieve orgasm . Yet they are seen as less acceptable and desirable than other means of achieving orgasm . Perhaps it is the traditional and patriarchal belief that a man has to be the one who gives his woman…
I have ping ponged between being single, attached , single, attached. I have experienced the flood of social invitations from other couples when partnered and the social isolation from these same friends when single. I am way past wondering why partnered people truly believe that single people have no life and thus available for baby sitting , or over time…